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reddit网友:当人们发现你比他们想象的更富有时,他们真的会为你感到高兴吗?
2018-11-26 骑着毛驴到处走 1629 2 0  

Were people actually happy for you when they found out you’re richer than they thought?

当人们发现你比他们想象的更富有时,他们真的会为你感到高兴吗?



my family were very proud and I guess relieved that they don’t have to worry about me and I’ll be ok if anything happens.
My friends weren’t happy. (Of course they verbally said they were) I can feel that they’re jealous in the little comments that slip through and they probably think I don’t deserve it. (They have higher academic degrees and has more prestigious jobs, why should I be making/keeping this much money?)
What has been your experience?

我的家人以我为荣,因为我自己能独当一面,他们不用再为我担心了。
我的朋友们却很不高兴(当然他们口头上并不会这么说),我能感觉到他我们的话语中那不经意间流露出来的嫉妒,他们认为我不配拥有这么多财富。(与我相比,他们的学历更高,工作也更有声望,凭什么我能赚这么多钱?)
你们有什么看法?

网友回复:

Insertopinionhere
interesting to see people’s reactions. My Dad was super proud of me and supportive. My Mom has always been critical and quick to put me down. She says things like “I don’t think you could handle being rich”.
It’s so odd to me how different people can have different perspectives. 

观察人们的反应真的很有趣。我爸爸为我感到非常骄傲,也非常支持我。我妈妈总是批评我,动不动就把我奚落一通。她会说“我不认为你能守住现有的财富”之类的话。
不同的人总是持着不同的观点,这让我感到很矛盾。

I’ll be honest though, I’ve had moments in my life where my brothers and friends were all doing better than me and I felt a tinge of envy. A feeling of inadequacy definitely fueled my envy.

说实话,在我的生活中,我一直有过这样的感觉,无论哪个方面,我的兄弟和朋友都比我做得更好,这让我感到一丝嫉妒。这种心理落差无疑激起了我的嫉妒。

Being human is weird

人真是一个奇怪的生物。

31 SR ~42% FI 17%(回楼上)
Does your mother suggest an alternative? Like spending all your money so you never fail at handling being rich? That particular criticism doesn't make too much sense.

你妈妈在奚落你的同时有什么建议吗?比如花光你所有的钱,这样你就不会在处理富有的问题上失败?
说实话,这种没头没尾的批评没有多大意义。

Insertopinionhere(回楼上)
It’s not really constructive criticism. Just criticism to put me down.
Her implication is that if I ever became rich I wouldnt be able to handle it because I’d waste it on alcohol, partying, or possibly drugs.
I definitely was a drinker in my past, a cigarette smoker, and I had some vices but a lot of that drug use was to cover my feelings of depression, anxiety and low self esteem.
I’ve definitely straightened my life out but sometimes it seems like she has to keep me down so I don’t feel too good about myself

她给出的的不是建设性的批评。只是利用批评来贬低我。
她的意思是,如果我变富了,我将无法处理它,因为我将把它浪费在酒精、聚会上,或者可能是毒品上。
我过去确实是一个酒鬼,一个吸烟者,我也有一些恶习,很多次使用过毒品,但这只是为了掩盖我的沮丧、焦虑和自卑。
我的生活确实过得很好,但我母亲总是时不时地给我浇点冷水,让我不要太自我感觉良好。

Archer_F(回楼上)
In your moms defense though, If I Fire and I still have lots of money left over when I'm like, 80, I am 100% burning through my money on Alcohol, partying and most certainly, drugs.

我得替你妈妈辩护几句,如果我在80岁的时候被解雇了,碰巧还剩下很多钱,那我100%会把钱都花在了喝酒、聚会上还有毒品上

ParaplegicDogRapist
It is weird. I used to be really envious of other people.. I was just flabbergasted at how these people with a fraction of what I have were driving 50k cars and living in expensive apartments. Then I realized they were spending every dime they had, and I quickly got over it. It's part of maturing, I would have no issue working at a grocery store bagging food so long as I'm happy. My spouse and I never need to work again and yet we live like we make minimum wage, besides groceries we don't spend money and we shop at goodwill.. We are happier now than when we blew money like it was going out of style.

很奇怪。我以前很羡慕别人。羡慕那些开着5万辆车,住着昂贵的公寓的人,尽管他们的财产只相当于我的一小部分,这让我大吃一惊。然后我意识到他们花光了所有的钱,所以我很快就释然了。这是成熟的一部分,只要我快乐,我可以在不起眼的杂货店里装着食物。我和我的配偶再也不需要工作了,但我们的生活却跟那些拿着最低工资标准的人一样,除了食品杂货,我们不花钱,我们在goodwill购物。我们现在比以前花钱大手大脚的时候更快乐。

sgtxsarge(回楼上)
We will never forget the wise and introspective words of yours.

我们永远不会忘记你睿智而内省的话语。

animuseternal
I grew up poor. I have poor friends. I drive a beat up car. I do whatever I can to not signal wealth, in part because I’m far more comfortable in the culture of the lower class. I think most of my friends, knowing my job, either assume I’m paying for my parents entirely as well, or blow all my money on video games or something, but they have the impression money’s always tight for me

我在贫穷中长大。我有一堆穷朋友。我还开着一辆年久失修的破车。我尽我所能不展现自己富有的一面,部分原因是我更喜欢下层社会的文化生活。大多数知道我工作的朋友,要么认为我竭尽全力在赡养父母,要么认为我把所有的钱都花在电子游戏之类的东西上,因此他们一直都以为我生活困窘,手头拮据。

myeff(回楼上)
Exactly. My first reaction to this post was "Why on earth are you telling other people about your financial situation?". I guess it's my midwest upbringing but I have always known nothing good ever comes from letting other people know you have extra money lying around

完全赞同你的观点。我对这篇文章的第一反应是“你到底为什么要告诉别人你的财务状况?”我想这是我在中西部长大的缘故(民风保守淳朴不张扬),但我一直都知道,让别人知道你有多余的钱,并没有什么好处。

Brn44(回楼上)
Unfortunately you can't always avoid signalling wealth, even if the wealth isn't actually there yet and people are jumping to conclusions. Case in point: when you take 2 weeks off for vacation, coworkers want to know where you're going, and when they hear [insert exotic destination here] they assume you must be loaded, since that sounds exotic and expensive. Never mind that we all make the same approximate salary, but I 1) buy my cars used and don't have car payments, 2) don't have cable/sports package/satellite, 3) do other frugal stuff and save up for Hawaii, 

不幸的是,财富是藏不住的,即使一个人还没有展示他的财富,人们也会提前匆忙下结论。
举个例子:当你休假两周时,同事们想知道你要去哪里,当他们听到你要去某个异国他乡旅游时,他们认为你一定很有钱,因为这听起来既有异国情调又昂贵。虽然我们都领着相同的薪水,但为什么我能去国外旅游呢?
那是因为:
1)我买的是二手车,不会为了攀比买豪车而背上分期贷款,
2)我不会开一大堆无用又昂贵的付费频道;
3)做事节俭,不停地存钱做准备,
 
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